Gud moning lo yufala evriwan! (Good morning everyone in Bislama). I really hope that this time of the year is treating you guys well. I was awaken this morning by the news notifications on my phone about former Japan Prime Minister Shinzo Abe who was assinanted after a speech. Terrible to hear influential people falling to the evil, anger, greed, and fallen forces. Need to remember that not everyone will be liked by others, but our actions to them can change the whole situation.
I do not know if you guys remember but las week I was able to bring up about finances within the family. Which is a major conversation that everyone has in each family. But this blog I am going to go a little bit more deeper. Some of these financial problems can actually stem from a need that is not being met. A need is a want or a desire from a person or object. Everyone has needs in their lives, but sometimes we have needs that are not met. This can come in all different levels and degrees from everyone.
A need has been with us even when were in the wombs, we all have opinions and different wants that we would like to have. But overtime time without addressing those needs and not receiving it can build up over the years. Which if it does build up overtime then it is actually a ticking time bomb. Let me get specific about a need that is usually not being met, contact and belonging.
When I say the words contact and belonging, what I'm talking about physical or emotional contact and feeling like a contributor. Why would these needs not be met? Well, it can start when a person is a child. A child needs to feel loved, that can be shown by just having the parents touch their children in a loving way. Not allowing children to feel isolated.
Examples of how a children might react when not getting a contact need. They will be erratic, incontrollable, undue attention seeking, some would say a trouble maker. A child that can lead to a disaster, could be lacking in a need that they simply do not realize. Giving a little extra effort to help someone reach that need, even if it looks like the parents or guardians are not helping them reach that need. Offering contact freely to these people. A need for contact effects the lives of adults on the daily. I do not know a single adult that lives a stress free life, but any form of contact helps lighten their loads. People just need a hug, rub on the shoulder/ back, a firm handshake, or just any form of contact.
Why would belonging be a need that is not met by others, what does that even look like? Everyone wants to feel belonged whether it is a society, community, religious, politically, hobbies, and by those that they love. Not feeling belonged is a huge divider in a persons life. Goes both ways for kids and adults, kids want to feel involved with activities, when adults want to contribute to help make something better. It can really change a persons life and how they can be utilized.
Examples of how someone may react when this need is not being met can be attention seekers, an overly obsessive want for people, or feeling inadequate by others. These needs can be met by teaching someone to be involved. Starting them young with helping out in house activities that they would enjoy doing. People like to feel involved in what they love to do, people want to be part of something whether it is big or small. A little goes a long way, and it can change a persons trajectory of contributing to the world!
Thank you everyone for reading my blog, I hope that this can help one person if they are struggling with needs not being met. Or if no one learned from this, I have gained more knowledge than I could have imagined. I hope you all enjoy the weekend, it is summer time and it is beautiful. Do something that you enjoy doing outside, feel the love of the sun in you life. Thank you all!!
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